You have a fulfilling job, an excellent group of close friends, an ideal apartment, no shortage of dates. So what in the event that you haven’t found The One just yet. Surely he’ll arrive, right?

But what if he doesn’t? Or a whole lot worse, imagine if he already has, but you just didn’t realize it?

All of a sudden finding herself forty and single, Lori Gottlieb said the unthinkable in her March 2008 article in The Atlantic: Maybe she and single women almost everywhere, needed to quit chasing the elusive Prince Charming and rather on the subject of Marry Him: THE SITUATION for Settling for Mr. SUFFICIENT choose Mr. SUFFICIENT.

Looking at her close friends’ happy marriages to sufficient guys who happen to be excellent husbands and fathers, Gottlieb declared it time to reevaluate what we actually need in somebody. Her ideas developed a firestorm of controversy from retailers just like the Today show to The Washington Post, which had written, ‘Given the perennial lack of perfect males, Gottlieb’s probably got a spot,’ to Newsweek and NPR, which declared, ‘Lori Gottlieb didn’t want to take her mother’s tips to be less picky, however now that she’s turned forty, she wonders if her mother is right.’ Women all around the globe were talking. But while many people agreed that they should have even more realistic expectations, what did that truly mean out in real life, where Gottlieb and ladies like her had been inexorably attracted to their ‘type’?

That’s where Marry Him comes in.

By looking at everything from lifestyle to biology, in Marry Him Gottlieb honestly explores the dilemma that so a lot of women today seem to face–how to reconcile the strong desire to have a husband and family members with a list of must-haves such a long time and complicated that lots of great guys get rejected from the gate. Here Gottlieb stocks her own trip in the search for intimate fulfillment, and along the way gets wise guidance and astonishing insights from marital research workers, matchmakers, dating instructors, behavioral economists, neuropsychologists, sociologists, lovers therapists, divorce attorneys, and clergy–as well as solitary and married women and men, ranging in age from their twenties with their sixties.

Marry Him is an eye-opening, often funny, sometimes painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of the modern internet dating landscape, and ultimately, a provocative wake-up call about getting genuine about Mr. Right.