“After many years of debate and inquiry, the main element to a great marriage continued to be shrouded in mystery. As yet…”-Carol Dweck, writer of Mindset: The New Psychology of Achievement

Eli J. Finkel’s insightful and ground-breaking analysis of marriage clearly shows that the very best marriages today are better than the best relationships of previously eras. Certainly, they will be the greatest relationships the world has ever known. He presents his findings here for the first time within this lucid, motivating guide to about The All-or-Nothing Relationship: How the Best Marriages Function contemporary marital bliss.

The All-or-Nothing Marriage reverse engineers fulfilling marriages-from the “traditional” towards the utterly nontraditional-and shows how any marriage can be better.

The primary function of marriage from 1620 to 1850 was food, shelter, and protection from violence; from 1850 to 1965, the purpose revolved around like and companionship. But today, a fresh kind of relationship has surfaced, one oriented toward self-discover, self-esteem, and personal growth. Finkel combines cutting-edge technological research with useful information; he considers pathways to better communication and responsiveness; he gives guidance on when to recalibrate our expectations; and he also introduces a set of must-try “lovehacks.”

This is a book for the newlywed to the empty nester, for all those thinking about getting married or remarried, and for anyone searching for illuminating advice that may make a genuine difference to getting the most out of marriage today.

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