You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You wind up feeling misunderstood…and the partnership that you’re building — in the home, face to face, on a date, or in an interview — slips just a little further out of the control.

Talk may be the key to any relationship and conversational design is the important to any discussion. In That’s Not What I Meant!, Dr. Tannen helps you recognize your very own conversational design and understand the varieties of others.

Whether you are coping with a person who’s as well quiet or somebody who’s a conversational bulldozer, learning to understand conversational style can help you cope with any situation. Through this understanding, you are able to prevent small variations from sparking big quarrels, really hear what was said — and what wasn’t.

That’s Not What I Meant! will give you the tools to save lots of any discussion — or romantic relationship.