Think about you’re circling a crowded car parking lot. Just like you spot a space, another drivers races ahead and will take it. In a world of road rage, domestic assault, and professionally upset Television and radio commentators, your likely response can be anger, actually fury. Now imagine that instead of another driver, a cow offers lumbered into that car parking space and resolved down. Your anger dissolves into bemusement. What offers changed? Not just the occupant of the space but your perspective on the situation. We’re a society swimming in anger, usually about to snap. Using basic, understandable Buddhist principles, Scheff and Edmiston describe how to replace anger with happiness. They introduce the four types of demands that most commonly underlie anger (Important and Sensible, Realistic but Unimportant, Irrational, and Difficult), then present how to identify our true unmet needs, dissolve our anger, and modification what happens when our control keys are pushed. We figure out how to have fun at ourselves, a powerful early step, and recognize that others don’t make us irritated. Only we can make ourselves irritated.