“If you wish to know why Harriet Lerner is among my great heroes, Why Won’t You Apologize? may be the solution. This book is certainly a game changer.” -Brené Dark brown, PhD, LMSW, writer of the #1 New York Occasions bestseller Rising Strong

“Harriet Lerner is one hell of the wise female. She attracts you in with deft and engaging prose, and changes your life with her thorough cleverness and her deeply individual advice. I guarantee that you will never find ‘the apology’ in quite the same manner.” -Esther Perel, MA, LMFT about Why Won’t You Apologize?: Recovery Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts author of Mating in Captivity

Famous psychologist and bestselling writer of The Dance of Anger sheds fresh light on both most important words in the English language-I’m sorry-and provides a distinctive perspective on the challenge of healing damaged connections and repairing trust.

Dr. Harriet Lerner has been learning apologies-and why some people won’t give them-for more than two decades. Right now she offers compelling stories and solid theory that buying how much the simple apology issues and what’s required for recovery when the hurt we’ve inflicted (or received) can be far from simple. Readers will understand how to art a deeply significant “I’m sorry” and prevent apologies that only deepen the original injury.

Why Won’t You Apologize? also addresses the compelling requirements of the hurt party-the one who has been hurt by a person who won’t apologize, show the truth, or feel remorse. Lerner explains what drives both non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, aswell as why the people who do the worst stuff are the least able to very own up. She assists the harmed person resist pressure to forgive as well easily and difficulties the popular idea that forgiveness is the only way to satisfaction. With her trademark humor and wit, Lerner offers a joyful and sanity-saving direct to setting factors right.